It’s no secret that chivalry is…well, if not dead, it’s certainly on life support. As a woman who has been pregnant twice in the past three years, I can confirm that most pretend not to notice your condition unless they want to a) comment on how fat you are or b) ask personal questions of a perfect stranger.
I live in a city where public transportation plays a minor role in my life, so I can’t really speak to the struggles of having to squeeze into a tiny subway car seat sporting a giant belly and puffy limbs while perfectly average-sized people refuse to make room. Based on this story — and the responses from others — it seems I should count my blessings on that front.
Twitter user Brydie Lee-Kennedy, an 8-months-pregnant woman, had that misfortune and did not hesitate to share her tale of woe on the public forum.
Basically, she was exhausted and carrying extra weight, and some guy thought his bag (and hand) needed the last seat on the bus more than she did. She sat on his hand and his bag, which apparently he still refused to move so they spent the rest of the ride in some sort of silent standoff.
Other women chimed in to share their stories of similar occurrences – far too many. All of them are my heroes, and braver than I would have been in a similar situation, though the discomfort caused by late pregnancy often causes one to lose one’s filter.
This one, though, is my favorite. I’m going to use this in a book someday.
Long story short? Don’t be stupid, rude and obtuse. Pay attention to the people around you who aren’t having the best of days – or the best month.
And get off your ass if a giant pregnant woman is standing near you, even if she doesn’t ask. Newsflash: she shouldn’t have to.