There’s a dividing line in adult lives – one drawn between the moment before you’re a parent, and the moment you see that positive pregnancy test (or hold your little one) for the first time. That said, there’s nothing that says you can’t stay friends with people who haven’t crossed the line yet – though it can and does present challenges in your friendships no matter how hard we try to pretend everything is the same.
Nothing is the same.
That said, if you want your non-parent friends to continue to want to talk with and hang out with you, you’ll want to think twice before picking up these 8 annoying habits.
#8. Telling them “they don’t get it.”
Sure, the non-moms actually don’t get it, but guess what? They don’t need to get it, not yet. When and if the time comes, they’ll understand – until then, don’t expect them to, but also, don’t repeatedly tell them they don’t.
#7. Interrupting conversations for your child.
This is something that drove me nuts before I was a mom, and while I understand that it might seem easier to address your child so that they’ll go away, here’s the truth – they’re not going away. Mine is 2, but I still plan to do my best to make sure he understands that interrupting is rude.
#6. Making fun of them for calling their pets their kids.
No, it’s not the same. Yes, you thought it sort of was, too, before you had babies. They love their dog. You love your dog, but not in the same way you love your kid. You’re both happy, so leave it alone.
#5. Using your kid to get out of un-fun activities.
If your friend has you and your kid over for lunch, don’t use the excuse that you have to play tea party to get out of helping your friend clean up. Sh*t ain’t cool.
#4. Asking why they don’t have kids.
If they’re a good enough friend, you probably already know the answer. If you don’t, it’s not okay to ask. As for telling people “they’ll definitely want kids someday” please just don’t. It’s not for everyone, and not everyone has reached the point in their life when they’re ready to make the decision.
#3. Letting your kid run wild in public.
It’s not cute, it’s embarrassing for your friends (and it should be for you, too). We can’t always 100% control our kids’ behavior, particularly when they’re young, but the point is that you should be trying.
#2. Don’t constantly complain about your kids.
We decided to have children, our friends didn’t. No one wants to hear constant ranting about anything (you chose to subject yourself to, remember), so be aware of how much you’re unloading on your pal.
#1. Keep the photos and videos short and sweet.
Yes, your non-Mom friends love seeing cute moments with your kids, but they definitely don’t need to see everything they do, nor do they have thirty minutes to watch little Timmy run around with his diaper on his head. Choose your shared pics wisely!
Good friends are worth it – remember that!