Lately, I feel like I have been reading a lot about the inappropriateness of father-daughter dates. Mostly, the inappropriateness of calling it a “date”. It romanticizes the relationship between a father and his daughter, it puts expectations on how the time should be spent, it makes the daughter a person who needs to be treated like a princess, etc., etc. I’m calling BS on this.
How can we tell a father, who wants to spend quality time with his little girl, that if he uses one specific word it makes the interaction weird or wrong? Are father-daughter dances wrong? If so, there are a multitude of schools that need to be notified. There are so many dads out there who want to spend more time with their kids, and it makes me sad to think we are judging them for making the time to have a “date” with their daughter. Or their son!
I take my son out on mommy-son dates all the time, and I LOVE IT!
It doesn’t romanticize our relationship (and if you’re thinking it’s different because he’s a boy, well then that’s just straight up sexism), and there are absolutely no expectations on how our time together should be spent. Our usual date is Starbucks and the library. We call it our Mommy-Son Starbucks Date. One thing I will say is, yes, I do pamper him a little more on these dates, not because he expects it, but because I want to. With a new baby brother on the scene, he deserves to have some special time with me, which might include a little more sugary treats than he normally has.
To all the moms and dads out there who take their kids out on dates, I congratulate you on being awesome parents. I really don’t care what you call the time you spend individually with your kids, as long as you are taking the time to do it! Individual time makes your child feel special, and they should feel special because kids are incredible human beings who thrive on feeling love and encouragement from their parents. I think we can all agree on that!