As a woman who has had children, I can confirm that there are myriad things that no one tells you before you have children. Some of them are physical, others are emotional, but they can all come as a shock – and no, it’s never really a pleasant one.
These 16 moms are getting candid about the most unexpectedly horrifying events that followed one of the best of their lives.
16. Some people might consider that an upside.
But those people were not pregnant when it was happening, I promise.
when I was pregnant I had a vitamin d deficiency, I had low sugar, my hip popped out of place almost every day, I still cant feel when my bladder is full, I have bad memory.
my sugar was so low my doctors were telling me to eat candy and twinkies for breakfast 🥴😭
— dei (@deitheartist) June 7, 2021
15. You would never guess how many things could happen.
If you’re actually having kids maybe you don’t really want to know.
The fact that women can break bones, lose teeth, etc during pregnancy is terrifying wtf😭😭
— Maya Angelique👑 (@moneyymaya) June 7, 2021
14. It’s obviously not always that bad.
But it’s important to know that it can be.
My mom & I nearly died during my birth (preclampsia almost shut down her liver) & it triggered a lifelong thyroid issue. It’s not the #1 reason I don’t want kids, but it is why I’ll forever be baffled by people that think you’re “missing out” by not putting yourself though that.
— intergalactic walrus (@ntrglcticwalrus) June 7, 2021
13. A too-soft pelvis.
Who knew that was a thing?
Yup. I was on bedrest for 5 months because my pelvis softened too much too soon – basically anytime I took a step I would risk dislocating my leg. Then, for 23 hours of labor, my 3 epidurals did absolutely nothing for my pelvic pain because “it won’t help bone pain”.
— fervorcandleco (@fervorcandleco) June 8, 2021
12. Why can’t they just leave our boobs alone?
They will never be the same, I can promise you that.
Second pregnancy was shitty. I was nauseous all 9 mths..like I was nauseous until the moment they pull her out from my c-section 😩😩🥴. Also also had pretty bad calcium loss (teeth are pretty shitty now) and the most intense nipple pain that just would randomly appear
— Notch (@Notchypoo) June 7, 2021
11. So glad this never happened to me.
I would hate to hate my puppers!
It was the smell. I become basically a bloodhound with my pregnancies. At one point I had a basset hound and ferrets. Both carry odors, and I could hardly look at a picture of my basset hound without gagging. I'm pregnant now with #4 and it's not as bad this time.
— SouthRuralLady (@ShyMommy29) June 8, 2021
10. The loose joint pain can show up anywhere.
Mine was/is in my tailbone and ouch.
My hearing isn’t so good after pregnancy ☹️ and my joints are still weak and painful a month after giving birth. Can’t even use my right hand properly 💔 coz of loose joints
— Fuefue -Zenande 🇿🇦 (@fuefuelux) June 8, 2021
9. And I’m guessing there’s nothing they can do about it.
That’s usually the way it goes.
My pregnancy wasn’t bad…pretty damn mild actually. I only had round ligament pain and my eczema was terrible. But postpartum??? I’ve had acid reflux that has put me in the hospital. The only thing doctors can attribute it to is body changes after pregnancy 🙃
— no. bcus why they let jlo sing. (@MerakiMuse) June 7, 2021
8. This is the stuff of nightmares.
Like, where was it before? Where did it come from?
You can even grow a tooth as well. My cousin and I were pregnant at the same time and she grew a tooth. I was like wtf 😲😲😲.
— Muva ♊ (@Neisha_SoSweet) June 8, 2021
7. They say it’s such a beautiful time.
But only if you’re blind, apparently.
Yep… my memory has not been the same, lower back pain from the epidural still goin strong, and my teeth jacked up and I love smiling 😶 well. Used to. Lost all my edges too, some women get very close to going bald after birth..
— 🍀 ✨ (@starlighTess6) June 8, 2021
6. Every word of this tweet is horrifying.
Like, I am sitting here just shaking my head.
Oh yeah I had a clogged milk duct when I was pregnant which caused me to leak blood so I had to get a mammogram and a catheter through my nipple. Fun
— BabyKay❁ (@kaylawest08) June 8, 2021
5. The list goes on and on.
All of this in addition to caring for a helpless baby!
i’m now anemic, have teeth/gum problems, had hair loss, permanent pain in my pelvis, my feet grew half a size, and my boobs randomly get this prickly feeling (like a letdown) even though he’s been weaned for over a year. yeah.
— Jade Thee Potato (@datasschakra) June 7, 2021
4. Way too many women actually die.
Childbirth will never be without serious risk.
i know this is common but my aunt gave birth to my cousin and she bled so much that they literally had to stuff her like a rotisserie chicken because of it, she fainted shortly after it. giving birth is INSANE and then there’s parenting, bYE i’m glad i found this tweet 💀
— jenjensbestie (@loverofsapphics) June 8, 2021
3. They say you always forget.
I think “they” should add “eventually” to the end of that sentiment, though.
Mine gave me gestational diabetes , gallbladder issues surfaced during my pregnancy and right after birth one of my ovary started twisting… on top of other things. This was my first pregnancy my little man is almost 10months and I’m scared to ever get pregnant again LOL!
— 🌸J🌸 (@AstroGirlJJ) June 8, 2021
2. I would do a lot more than cry.
Or maybe I would do nothing at all. Hard to say unless you were there.
i saw a tiktok of a lady saying that after she gave birth her uterus collapased and was hanging out and it looked like a jellyfish…. i’d cry
— belle #BLM ACAB (@dead1_y) June 8, 2021
1. We weren’t really thinking when it all started.
And after that it was too late.
The sciatic nerve pain that will never go away! My 1st sons head was so low I grew an operable hemorrhoid. My csection scar still burns when I ovulate. I can sneeze/cough real good and pee my pants. Sometimes I can’t believe I carried 3 babies to term what was I thinking. 🥴🥴🥴
— I’m charging Henessey prices (@nnekawith2ns) June 7, 2021
I mean. Yikes.
I don’t really know what else to say!
If you’ve got something else to add, drop it in the comments.