As a woman who has had children, I can confirm that there are myriad things that no one tells you before you have children. Some of them are physical, others are emotional, but they can all come as a shock – and no, it’s never really a pleasant one.

These 16 moms are getting candid about the most unexpectedly horrifying events that followed one of the best of their lives.

16. Some people might consider that an upside.

But those people were not pregnant when it was happening, I promise.

15. You would never guess how many things could happen.

If you’re actually having kids maybe you don’t really want to know.

14. It’s obviously not always that bad.

But it’s important to know that it can be.

13. A too-soft pelvis.

Who knew that was a thing?

12. Why can’t they just leave our boobs alone?

They will never be the same, I can promise you that.

11. So glad this never happened to me.

I would hate to hate my puppers!

10. The loose joint pain can show up anywhere.

Mine was/is in my tailbone and ouch.

9. And I’m guessing there’s nothing they can do about it.

That’s usually the way it goes.

8. This is the stuff of nightmares.

Like, where was it before? Where did it come from?

7. They say it’s such a beautiful time.

But only if you’re blind, apparently.

6. Every word of this tweet is horrifying.

Like, I am sitting here just shaking my head.

5. The list goes on and on.

All of this in addition to caring for a helpless baby!

4. Way too many women actually die.

Childbirth will never be without serious risk.

3. They say you always forget.

I think “they” should add “eventually” to the end of that sentiment, though.

2. I would do a lot more than cry.

Or maybe I would do nothing at all. Hard to say unless you were there.

1. We weren’t really thinking when it all started.

And after that it was too late.

I mean. Yikes.

I don’t really know what else to say!

If you’ve got something else to add, drop it in the comments.