Being a parent is hard, and no matter what your family’s circumstances, it requires regular sacrifice. If you’re a stay-at-home mom that means giving up pretty much everything else in your life in order to make sure your babies get the best start possible on theirs.
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Dear stay at home mom who sits around all day, I see you. I see you curled up on the couch with your little one because they wanted to snuggle for nap time. I see it took a while to get your little one to sleep because they were fussy and you were exhausting yourself so you needed to sit. I see you getting up in the middle of the night to check on your little one. I see all the diaper changes, all the feedings, all the time you take to comfort your little one when they aren't feeling well. I see you working on the development skills. I see you cooking and cleaning, attending to the pets to make sure they still feel loved. I see you making sure your spouse is taken care of and I see you putting your family before yourself. Dear stay at home mom who sits around all day, I see your messy bun and sweat pants with stains all over them, your legs under you while you sit on the couch drinking cold coffee. I see you finally having time for yourself because your family and home is taken care of. ❤ . . . #dear #herestoyou #stayathomemom #sahm #stayathomemomlife #sahmlife #sahmomlife #stayathomemomlife #stayathome #stayathomemoms #stayathomemum #stayathomemommy #mom #momlife #sahmom #iseeyou #littleone #dearmom
It can be a thankless job, and one you’re not sure you really wanted some days, and there are doubts and worries that seem to compound every day.
There are the regular ones about how well you’re doing as a parent, whether or not you could be doing better or more, and the ones where you wonder whether your career or friends or hobbies will be there waiting when you can get back to them in a few years.
This woman wrote an open letter to the stay-at-home moms and honestly, it brought a bit of a tear to my eye.
“Dear stay-at-home mom,
I see the work you’re doing in raising these children and it is the hardest, most undervalued kind of work.
I want you to know no one else was considered for the job. You were the only one qualified for this child.
You are a sacrificial and serving mom.
You are a woman who is giving up a few years of her life to guarantee another human has the best years of theirs.
You are creating memories, even on the mundane days.
You are providing the consistency that all children deserve.
You are teaching them that it’s great to have the best day ever, but it’s more realistic to not. So even in your flops and failures they are learning the invaluable lesson of resilience.
You are a chef, chauffeur, social event coordinator, speech developer, housekeeper, counselor, toy fixer/finder, nurse, librarian, physical education teacher, leader, mother and friend.
You are employed by the greatest company: Your child.
You won’t enjoy every minute, and that’s okay, no job is without its setbacks. But one day you’ll look up and you’ll have a bit more of your life back. Your meals will be warm, your clothes unstained.
And you’ll remember, the years you spent pouring into another person never went unnoticed.
If they can’t say it right now, I will:
You are a good, good mother.”
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Sometimes the most emotive pictures are the simplest – – – – – – This post’s for you mamas. I see you tired, doing your best for your little ones and I also see you doing everything for them…. and at times, you forget about yourself. – – – – Because I was that mama too until I decided that I was going to work on my health after having Arthur because that’s what is most important for this little chap.. that he gets the best version me. – – – This little chap will look at his mama and see that this was all for him. To show him it’s all possible, but also so I can spend that precious time with him and teach the importance of a health lifestyle. – — – The time I never got when I was away from him 11 hours a day at 9 months old, leaving him with our full time nanny whilst I worked out my big corporate London career. – – – Thinking about it makes me well up, because I have worked so flipping hard to enjoy more time with him. – – – It’s true I’m not a full time stay at home mum, as A goes to preschool, but to me this is perfect. I get to enjoy those mornings and evenings with A when I was chugging into london 🚂 and when I pick him up from preschool at 315pm. It’s our time and it’s so precious to me, but so is having a meaningful fulfilling career – – – – This is motivation enough for me to smash this biz because in turn I am helping so many mamas work on their own health, but I’m also paving the way for them to do the same with their careers…. – – – Nothing fills my heart more than this little boy. – – – You never know what focusing on your own health could do for your whole life just because I said yes to an opportunity to get fit after having Arthur right here – – – – #toddlermum #dreamlife #mummysboy #careergirl #mummysboy #mylittleboy #fitnessmum #fitnessmummy #workfromanywhere #workfromhomemom #dowhatyoulove #dowhatmakesyouhappy #healthymummy #womeninwellness #postpartumbody #postpartumfitness #postpartumhealth #healthyfamily #familyiseverything #familyfirstalways #stayathomemom #stayathomemomlife #womeninspiringwomen #dreambigger #daretodream #careermum
It’s nice to know that on the days I’ve not been able to shower, when my clothes are splattered with heaven knows what, the toddler is crying for no reason and the baby is pulling all of the snacks out of the cabinet that people still see me – and they think the work I’m doing is good.