Motherhood is hard, and let me tell you, the transition from who you were before you got pregnant to the woman you see in the mirror a few weeks after giving birth for the first time is a rough one. Your identity, your ability to take time for yourself, a lack of sleep and bodily autonomy…it’s a lot to deal with, and that’s not even taking into account all of the physical changes you’ve gone through as well.
It can take months (years) to feel like a semblance of the person you were, or even the person you’re going to become that’s hopefully a mother, wife, and an individual.
None of which this guy apparently took into account when he got sad that his wife, 7 months postpartum, doesn’t “dress up” for him anymore.
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He still thinks she’s sexy, she just doesn’t dress that way and he’s sad.
SO SAD.
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Also, a reminder: we’re in a pandemic. Who even is dressing up and doing their makeup at home, even if they aren’t coping for the first time with the transition to motherhood?
He’s a reasonable man, though, and doesn’t expect her to dress up for him every day – just a couple of days a week.
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She, however, was not into his suggestions or the conversation in general, but he’s still sad about her clothes.
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So, he’s asking the internet whether or not he’s an a$shole for even bringing it up.
Answer?
Most people say yes.
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More than one person pointed out that she’s only 7 months postpartum, and might still be nursing.
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Pretty nursing bras are a curse from hell.
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This mom weighed in, saying it took her about 18 months to even feel like attempting “normal” again.
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That’s about right in my experience, too.
Mostly, people pointed out that this guy is just out looking for trouble.
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Your wife is at home, with a new baby, in a world that’s flipped upside down. Maybe cut her a break and think about someone other than yourself for a minute?
What would you say, if you weighed in? Tell us in the comments!