Becoming a mother for the first time that’s something impossible to describe.
You want to laugh and cry all of the time.
You want to hold them every minute and you want them to be independent.
You want to poop alone and you love that they always want to be near you.
You’re dying for some alone time, but the minute you step out the front door, you miss your baby.
It’s a rollercoaster of emotion, and honestly, the contradictions have been one of the toughest aspects for me to sort through!
For all of our exhaustion, all of our being touched out, and all of our wanting just one minute to feel like our old selves, the truth is that most of us realize we should appreciate each and every stage as it comes and goes. That can feel impossible sometimes, when you’re sleep-deprived, when you’re dealing with morning sickness and a coming sibling, or you’ve suddenly got your hands full with two.
Mom Amy Schumer is still just a mommy to one – little Gene, who is around fifteen months old – and she’s soaking up every moment.
Like all of us, there are those snapshots when our hearts ache, our throat gets tight, and we just wish we could hit pause.
The age her Gene is – around 15-20 months – is also my favorite baby/toddler stage. Once they hit 2 (and, brace yourselves, 3) there’s more sass, more big emotions, and more helping them learn how to navigate things themselves.
If we’re being honest, it also means less patience on our parts, because they’re no longer babies.
She’s in that sweet spot right now, even as she and her husband work through IVF in the hopes of giving Gene a sibling, and yeah, I’m feeling her sentiment right in my ovaries.
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Hey! So ivf went like this for us. They retrieved 35 eggs from me. Not bad for the old gal right? Then 26 fertilized! Whoah right? For all of those we got 1 normal embryo from that and 2 low level mosaic (mosaic means there are some abnormal cells but can still lead to a healthy baby) So we feel lucky we got 1! But what a drop off right? Anyway I have so appreciated everyone sharing their Ivf stories with me. They made me feel empowered and supported. So I wanted to tell you how mine went down. So many women go through many rounds of ivf which is painful and mentally grueling. I heard from hundreds of women about my their miscarriages and struggles and also many hopeful stories about how after rounds and rounds of ivf it worked!! It has been really encouraging. Thank you. Anyway I am so grateful for our son and that we have the resources to get help in this way. I just wanted to share and send love and strength to all of the warrior women who go through this process. 🎸💪🏾 my number is in my bio if you are open to text me your experience or whatever you feel like. I read them when I can’t sleep or have time 👻
The great thing is, now that I have one that’s older, I can promise Amy (and all of you) that every stage has something special, something unique, and something you’re going to be sorry to see go.
And sure, they’re not always going to be squishy and sweet and hilarious, but someday they’ll understand your sarcasm and biting wit.
If you ask me, that’s something to look forward to.